Perfectly imperfect. Aren’t we all? Or is it accurate to say that no one is perfect? Whatever may be the reason, there is no absolute reality. Confidence comes from the inner and outer reality of a person.
Pratiksha K Singh
Not confident enough? Take a look at confidence
Lack of confidence takes a toll on any individual trying to succeed in the outer world. It has a major impact on a person’s personality. To be confident a person needs to accept her/himself. Self-love is necessary, putting confidence in the complete extent of our being is the key to having a happy and fulfilling life. In many ways, confidence emerges from self-acceptance.
Ancient wisdom says “Know thyself”. It has always been considered a necessity to know our true selves. Only by doing so can one aim and achieve great things in life.
- The first step to knowing yourself begins with acquiescence of your inner reality. Your habits, nature, and lifestyle reflect who you are at the core. Once you become aware of yourself, you will be confident enough to present yourself better everywhere.
- The second is to accept the ugly, bitter, good and bad side of yourself. “No one is perfect” is a quote we have read and heard many times. But accepting it is not a piece of cake. It takes too much overthinking and patience the sides of ourselves that don’t look good enough to us.
- The third is to know the ways to improve yourself. How can you make the person you are now the better version of yourself later?
- Finally but importantly, match everything with the realistic scenario of the present and stop beating yourself up for the things you dreamed of achieving beyond your expertise and failed.
First thing first, you can love yourself all you want. That is the basic definition of self-love. But when you put yourself in society be ready to be judged by everyone. Accept criticism even from people you consider beneath you. Be brutal to your perception of yourself. Try not to have unrealistic expectations. Your perception of yourself may one day become your reality.
If you are thin or fat, love yourself, but also accept that you don’t have the quality to be on the cover of a health magazine, showing a healthy body. If you are black, you aren’t going to be the face of a fairness magazine. That’s how society works and it’s not your fault. You are not part of every race so stop running it.
Your self-acceptance has nothing to do with society. Society doesn’t owe you anything. How they are going to perceive you is their choice and they are not obliged for anything. So don’t overestimate your intelligence, attractiveness, and competence. Don’t underestimate your mistakes, flaws, and ignorance.
We all have different gifts. Nobody has everything. But often in society people with outstanding physical appearances are valued most initially. They have some advantages when it comes to first impressions. It’s sad but true. Early you will accept that better it will be for you later. Only then you will concentrate on improving the gifts you got.
Kintsugi: The Japanese art of repairing broken pottery. It is a metaphor for embracing your flaws and imperfections. If a bowl is broken, rather than discarding the pieces, the fragments are put back together with glue-like tree sap and the cracks are adorned with gold. There are no attempts to hide the damage, instead, it is highlighted. I was astonished by it when I first saw it. It was perfect in all imperfections. Mending broken things takes time, patience, effort, and creativity. Lately, it has helped me see myself in a new light and has given me confidence. Knowing that if some broken pot can be beautiful, we can to.